I’m not saying there aren’t good things about being single. You may have read more than ever; spent more time with friends that your last partner didn’t like and enjoyed far more sudoku/ TV repeats or Chinese food than you’ll admit to.
And yet, after 6 months, 12 months or longer, you may have gone one too many Sundays without speaking to a living soul, have your kitchen that little bit to (un)tidy and realised it’s harder to host dinner parties without (at least token) assistance.
So let’s assume you’re now looking for a relationship.
Try this little exploration. I’d like you to answer the following questions, ideally out loud or on paper, but answer in your head if you think I’ve just adopted the tone of one of your old teachers.
When you’d like to have a relationship, what kind of relationship would you like to have?
When you’d like to have that kind of relationship, is there anything else about that kind of relationship?
And the relationship you’d like to have is like what?
And what needs to happen for you to have that kind of relationship?
I’d really like to hear your responses. Did you discover anything new? Is there something you know now but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Or perhaps you have a clear metaphor for the kind of relationship you’d like.
Now that you know a bit more about your relationship, perhaps you have unanswered questions, or would like to know how to get that kind of relationship.
If you email me your responses, I’d be happy to talk a little more about the relationship you’d like. Please join my mailing list and let me know your answers.