I’m Brian Birch, the Dating and Relationship Coach. I seek to help people to find a relationship or improve the relationship their are in. Please look for more details on BrianBirch.com

Since training in 2006 and starting my business in 2008, I’ve coached dozens of people for hundreds of hours on issues that include :

- self-confidence in relationships and how to talk about what they want;

- how to deal with their partner or other people near them and how to stop having unproductive arguments;

- setting realistic goals and how to avoid wasting time with dreams they don’t believe they will achieve;

- how to know what they deeply want and not to simply accept family or media influences;

- how to decide what to do when the heart and the head want different things; and

- how to admit what’s wrong and when it’s time to change something , whether that’s a personal habit or a relationship pattern.

During a coaching session, I listen closely to what a coaching client tells me they want and what’s going on in their love life. Together we explore what they know deeply about that, what they believe strongly and the palpable feelings that they experience. We don’t focus on distant theories or ill-fitting labels but on the client’s own experiences, patterns and how their life works. It’s not about short-term enthusiasm but focussed on what will genuinely help them achieve their relationship goals, such as how they want to feel in their relationship. As the client takes responsibility for their exploration, they remember forgotten social confidence, gain new perspectives on their relationship and discover how to be their best self while with another person.

I write blogs, offer a free initial consultation and am preparing some teleseminars. Please look for more details on BrianBirch.com

 

Relationships can be confusing and tie you up in knots.   Let me try to explain.

 

Daniel meets Emily in a bar. Daniel likes Emily.

But for some sad reason, Daniel can’t have Emily.  End of story?

No, because Daniel can’t accept that Daniel can’t have Emily. 

So if Daniel can’t accept he can’t have Emily and he can’t have Emily, what happens next? 

Daniel needs to choose what happens next, but Daniel can’t choose because Daniel can’t accept the things he’s have to accept to choose what happens next…

 

Well, you can see how quickly a difficulty can seem like an impossible situation in a relationship between a man and a woman.  Expectations, limits, pride, love. Who wins when persistence meets huge barriers?  I’ve attended a seminar on understanding and perhaps resolving these difficult binds.  There is more to come on the next seminar and I’m looking forward to dealing with these terrible but fascinating relationship issues.

 

But what should Daniel do?  If he can start to understand the bind he’s in, he can do something about it.  There is quite a bit of self-awareness on that road and it’s an effort to go down it, but it it comes to some sort of resolution, perhaps I’ll travel down it with Daniel some day.

 

Belief & persistence will provide the direction & fuel to get you where you want to go.

Accept that you can have a large effect on your life and emotions.  You can’t control everything, but you can influence the direction life takes you.

The effort a journey often takes means stopping may be tempting and easy.  The important thing is to keep moving forward and build on your successes.

Reading, creating a plan for yourself or Relationship Coaching can help you grasp the real issues in your life so you can figure out what to do with them.

If you’re busy or overwhelmed, that may seem difficult.  Think of the long-term effects of following your dreams with belief and persistence and you’ll soon realise how far you can go.

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